What is "somatic couples counseling"?

Somatic learning

Somatic couples counseling is based on the concept of somatic learning.

Somatic learning takes place within one's own body and in contact with other people. We don't learn about sexuality and our bodies through conversations, books, or DVDs. These are resources that we normally use, however. Somatic learning requires that we involve our own bodies and practice and learn with them.

Somatic learning takes time. Nobody learns a sport or an instrument overnight. Therefore, somatic sex therapy isn't so different from that of a sports coach or a music teacher. We impart knowledge, show you ways to learn and expand your skills. But the implementation can only happen through you. The key to change is conscious practice, which we explore together with you.

Somatic learning is self-directed. Therefore, you determine the goal and the pace. We will support you with love and our experience.

Relationship vision

Another important component is developing a shared vision for the relationship. First, we'll explore the question: What is truly important to me in life and in the relationship? Using these individual visions, we'll work together to develop a shared vision for the relationship.

Focusing on these core themes and being aware of one's own limits and priorities creates a space of self-affirmation and clarity. We combine this inner clarity with respectful communication, both verbal and non-verbal.
This is the necessary foundation for dissolving hindering fusions and dependencies and developing a deep connection and a shared vision for the relationship. From this, compromises and joint solutions can emerge, without which a vibrant partnership cannot survive in the long term.

These principles are of course independent of gender and sexual orientation and apply to all people, even without a partner!